You are waiting to stop being afraid before you go. That is not the order it happens in. Scared first is the only door there is.
The version of this in your head at 3am is bigger and sharper than the real one. It always is. The fear is not lying about the stakes, it is lying about the size.
Being afraid means something matters to you. That is not a reason to stop.
You are not afraid of it going wrong. You are afraid of how much you will care when it does. That is not weakness. That is having skin in the game.
You have survived every hard thing so far. Not elegantly. Not without damage. But you are still here, which means the record is intact.
Other people seem less afraid because you cannot hear what they are telling themselves to get through it.
The people whose opinion you are afraid of are busy being afraid of someone else's opinion. Nobody is watching as closely as you think.
The fear is not a sign you should not. It is a sign you actually want to.
You keep looking for a version of this where you do not have to be scared first. There is not one. Scared first is the only door.
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